Jun 30, 2012

Thought Question #413

I try my best not to take things for granted, but obviously we all do.  Like when I complain about stiffness in my muscles, or my shin splints that hurt so much... I tend to forget that someone without legs would give anything to have mine, even with the pain, at least I can still walk.  We don't think of how blessed we are to be able to use our senses, because so many people can't.  I see a flower in the garden as I pass by, and hardly notice, but for someone who can't see... that flower is a spectacular little miracle full of life and colour.  I don't appreciated music as much as most people do, but what does the music mean to the people who can't hear it?  I know a guy who lost his sense of smell when he was a young boy, he wants only to be able to smell the fire burning, the freshly baked bread, the rain, the plants, nature, the world.  And here I am complaining about my hair smelling of wood fire after enjoying a drink with a friend the previous night, next to a cozy outdoor fire.

We don't appreciate all the things we should in our daily lives.  We don't appreciate life and the people in it, enough.  I guess we assume it will always be there.  Remember, anything can happen.  Appreciated what you have and what you're capable of.  Please....

Jun 28, 2012

Thought Question #412

I've made quite a few difficult decisions.  But in the end they were necessary.  I can't tell you which one was the hardest, because I don't think I know the answer myself.  I've decided to let friendships go, as much as I hated to.  I've decided to let guys go, like Gerhard for example.  It was a horrible decision, but it had to happen.  If not for me, then for him, as well.  I've switched jobs, which is not a nice experience for someone who doesn't like change.

What about you?

Jun 27, 2012

Thought Question #411

I can't really think of something... how sad...

And you?

Jun 25, 2012

Thought Question #410

Faith is a very important part of life.  I think you need to have faith in something.  If you don't believe in something, you will fall for anything.  I've mentioned before that I've had issues with my religion in the past.  It happens.  But at the end of the day, I have faith.  I do believe.  And as much as people fight it, they too, want to believe.  It's comforting in so many ways...

Elegant Evil Queen Inspired Snow White Party {Hostess for the Mostess}

Jun 24, 2012

Thought Question #409

Well, there's one piece of advice my Grandfather often repeated, and he's like a parent to me so I'm sure I can share... He used to say "How do you eat an elephant?  ...Piece by Piece".  And yes, I realize how disturbing that may sound.  But think about, you can't stuff a whole elephant in your mouth at once, or even finish eating an elephant in one day.  It's a play on the quote "Rome wasn't built in a day".  It means to have patience with life and with the situations that you find yourself in, even the work that lies ahead of you.  Just do it piece by piece, bit by bit, in small portions, and in the end the big picture will make more sense, be easier, or be finished a lot faster.  If you look at the pile of work on your desk and you try to multitask to be able to get everything, it sometimes back fires on you.  It's overwhelming.  But if you take it little by little, start to finish, it works out fine and with less stress to yourself.

People tend to forget this important piece of advice.  And it's more helpfull than you realize, in more ways than you realize...

I miss this...

Jun 22, 2012

Thought Question #408

To climb a tree.  To hang upside down from a branch.  To play with dolls and toys with the imagination and innocence I once had.  To laugh at the world.  To swim all day and to play in the sand without worrying how I look or where the sand is getting into now.  To just live.

Jun 21, 2012

Thought Question #407

A good cup of coffee.  A smile.  A great conversation.  My home.  Ideas.  Stories.

Jun 19, 2012

Thought Question #406

People "reading" me and seeing my vulnerability.  Actually being naked...

Jun 17, 2012

Thought Question #405

Forgive and let go.
Take care of this moment.
Without action you aren't going anywhere.
Remember, everyone is human.
See the good in people and help them.
Be congruent, be authentic, be your true self.
Grow and evolve.
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get people interested in you.
Keep Going.  No matter what you do, no matter how many times you screw up and think to yourself "there's no point to carry on", no matter how many people tell you that you can't do it - keep going.  Don't quit.  Don't quit, because a month from now you will be that much closer to your goal than you are now.  Yesterday you said tomorrow.  Make today count.
If you never try, you'll never know.
You may think the grass is greener on the other side.  But if you take the time to water your own grass it would be just as green.
The Art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from common things.
Smile and say "thank you" and "you're welcome".  I promise you won't lose money from your bank account.
Collect moments. Not things.
Have adventures.  Smell the Roses.  Be kind to yourself.  Go for long walks.  Daydream.  Create something.  Tell stories.  Explore.  Look at the stars.
It's not about forcing happiness.  It's about not letting sadness win.
Happiness is a form of courage.
Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try.
Life is full of beauty.  Notice it.

Jun 16, 2012

Thought Question #404

Love and Kindness, I think.  We assume it's out there and it's everywhere.  We assume everyone has it in them, but really people are pretty selfish beings.  We hear about people helping the needy all the time, we hear about rescues and we hear about love and kindess towards those who genuinely need it.  But then, we hear about murder, rape and suicicides.  Where was the love then?  I have to wonder.  Maybe it's because recently I've been wathing the series Criminal Minds.  And yes, it's disturbing.  The psychopaths out there are disturbing.  Scary disturbing.  It just makes me want to take it all away.  It freaks me out that people don't think, don't care eough, to take of one another.  It freaks me out that parents destroy their kids, in so many different ways, and don't do something about it.  A lot of things freak me out, probably because, once again, I don't understand any of it.

What do you think is there not enough of?

Jun 15, 2012

Jun 14, 2012

Thought Question #403

You can always say you'll never do something, but put into a strong enough situation, the chances are good that you'll give in.  And it can be a million things, too.  I said I would never be a negative person, but of course sometimes I just can't help it.  I'm sure there's more things, I just can't think about it now.  I can only say that I don't think I'm that regretful about these things, at the end of the day everything brought me back to where I am today.  And that's okay.

What about you?

Jun 13, 2012

I'm still young thankyouverymuch

There are people who think my head's not screwed on right because of the fact that I'm okay being single.  Most of my friends and acquintances are either in long relationships, engaged to be married (and planning the wedding), already (or just) married, pregnant, or wanting to start a family of snot nose kids.
I'm not there yet!  And it's like they want me to think there's something wrong with me for not wanting all of that.  But, you see, I do want all of that.  Just not now!  I'm definitely not ready to settle down and take care of a man or kids.  I'm not ready to be tied down, in any way.  I'm not ready to give myself up like that.  And I don't think there's anything wrong with the fact.

I'm still young.  What's the rush?  They say "When you know, you know".  Well, I don't know who 'they' are, but if they're right then I don't know yet.  What's so wrong with that?  Why am I 'a crazy person' for not wanting all of that right away?  I actually think I'm more normal than the rest of them want to jump into a marriage so young.  I mean, how do you know?  Especially if, for example, you've known the significant other for a month or so?  That's just borderline psychopathic and desperate, don't you think?  I mean if you don't even know how they drink their coffee or where they throw their underwear at night, how do you know if you can spend your life with that person?  Or are my standards just way too high?

I want a guy who can look after himself, financially and personally.  I want a guy who can look after me, if necessary.  I mean, I have to be able to look after myself, of course, but he should be able to look after me.  And yes, I've heard that that sounds like I'm just thinking about money, but you know what I don't think that's true.  It's not just about money, it's about responsibility.  Knowing when you can do what with your money, and how it will affect your budget and the rest of the month.  That's realistic, don't you think?

Or maybe I'm just fulla sh!t.  You never know.  Maybe I'll just end up in a little house with nine cats to keep me company.

Jun 12, 2012

Thought Question #402

What a strange question... Some things can't be explained.  Other things need to be explained.  Other things should be explained.  Other things... well, shouldn't, I guess.  Because, at the end of the day, explanations doesn't always help.  Explanations don't take away the pain.  Sometimes, even, explanations make it worse.  Because, sometimes, it just doesn't make sense.  Maybe because we're all so different.  What makes sense to you, makes no sense to me, or visa versa.  I, for one, want to understand everything, make sense of shitty situations, but I know it's not always that easy.

Jun 11, 2012

Thought Question #401

I don't think there's a place I wouldn't want to see or experience.  Then again... I haven't been out of South Africa and it's not like any tourism related articles or promotions ever tell you about the shitty parts.

Care to share?

Jun 10, 2012

Jun 9, 2012

Thought Question #400

I think, unfortunately, my 15 minutes of fame was on the day of a dear friend's funeral.  Herself, her husband and their two children passed away in a terrible car accident.  Putco Bus services and the Minister of Transport was involved.  Therefore, the news crews and the police were involved.  I was on the evening news, in the church.  Urgh.  Not nice.

What about you?  I'd love to hear all about it !

Jun 8, 2012

Thought Question #399

That education is important.  That teachers are people too (Kids tend to forget that).  That people are actually pretty mean, especially teenagers.  That people are superficial.  That friends are not forever.  And that people will probably never get to know the real me.  Highschool was a strange time.  Obviously.

What about you?

Jun 7, 2012

Happiness and Change is a Choice

There's another saying - It always seems impossible until it is done.  I know a guy who got into the film industry doing animation, graphic design, set design and special effects (all the things I'm crazy about) just by teaching himself.  He has no accreditation, no diploma, no certificates, nothing.  He just decided that he wants to turn his curiousity and passion into a career.  It took him three years to teach himself everything he needed to know, and he went on to find a job in the industry.  He started at the bottom and worked his way up, and he did it.

I find his story absolutely fascinating.  It's amazing what can happen if we set our minds to it.  That's why I feel that if it seems like you're stagnating or being held back in life due to circumstances or just the person you are... it's bullsh!t.  Change is your choice.  It's all up to you to make things better in your life.  Just start doing it, piece by small piece.  Set yourself goals, not too big, and go for it!  One day you'll look back and realize how far the small pieces have brought you.

But for pete's sake stop complaining about crap that you can change!  And don't say you can't.  Because you can.  Happiness is a choice, it's a mindset.  Success is a choice, not a circumstance.  Get over it, get out there and become who and what you want to be.  It doesn't help you thinking you can't be that person because of this or that.  Change it then.  Work on it or around it.  And don't give up until you're happy!

Jun 6, 2012

Thought Question #398

I'm actually pretty tame.  But sometimes I post feelings online, like on here.  And it gets me in shit.  Then again, it might be a good thing.  It's the truth at the end of the day.  Even if I'm bad with words.

You??  Promise, I won't tell.